Reflections of a Working Mom

By: Glenda G. Lofton, Ph.D.

May 8, 2019

The decision to be a “working mom” was not an easy one for me.  Like many others in my generation, I was reared in a home where God and family came first.  As a homemaker and “stay-at-home” mom, my mother modeled what giving was all about.  She gave of herself to her family unconditionally.  Every morning I was awakened by the smell of bacon and hot homemade biscuits.  I never questioned whether she would be there when I arrived home from school, and when Dad returned home from teaching and coaching, a hot delicious meal in the best of Southern tradition was always waiting.  She made all my clothes, and each seam, each creation, was a reflection of her own commitment to beauty and excellence.  As she responded to my homework and challenged me to do my best, she instilled in me that same desire for excellence. Going to college was not an option for me or my brother.                

To balance work and family, I chose to become a teacher.  I would have the same hours as my children, and summers would be free to be a full-time mother and wife.  For me it was the best of all worlds.  However, the demands of teaching well-exceeded the school day, and before long, I was in graduate school and my job had expanded to twelve months.  Often I found myself torn between my commitment to God, my family, and my work.  It didn’t help when my son, Bret, spent the weekend at my mom’s, and after experiencing the “typical mothering” I had known as a child, he looked at me and said, “Gee, Mom, you must have loved being a kid.”  Probably my ultimate low, however, was when I left Bart, a toddler, at the nursery at church, and was half way home before I realized he was missing. When I frantically returned, the visiting preacher met me at the door and laughingly said, “Mrs. Lofton, tomorrow night I’m doing a message on the home and family, and I would like for you and your husband to be there.” Later, after Bret had gone off to college, I once again questioned the choices I had made when he returned home to tell me, “I’m the only kid in the dorm, Mom, that likes the cafeteria food; it’s so regular.” Even now when I visit my sister-in-law and observe her prepare “made from scratch” blueberry muffins and a fresh fruit salad for her four children’s breakfast, I have the overwhelming desire to call Bret and Bart and apologize.                

Although I have questioned some choices in my life, there is one choice Tommy and I have never questioned, “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord (Joshua 24:15).”  As a result, I have learned the meaning of grace, the unmerited love of God, my husband, and my sons. Fortunately for us working moms, the things which seem to have the greatest impact on our children are not dependent on whether we work or stay at home, but in the things we talk about, teach and model for them on a daily basis.  Did you know, for example, that research shows that when parents take time to simply talk with their children about classroom learning—whether they’re discussing books and ideas, preparing for tests and projects, or puzzling over homework—student achievement rises (Mapp & Henderson 2002)?                         

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